Complainers and Upbeat in Family

Like most professional, I love reading Dilbert. Recently I happen to click on Adam Scott's blog. Found this entry interesting - it started with a generalized statement of one partner being a complainer in the family:

http://dilbertblog.typepad.com/the_dilbert_blog/2006/01/men_versus_wome_1.html

Get closer to resolution

More interesting was one of the comments on the blog. Its reproduced below:

".. From John Schaeffer: 'complaining without having a resolution in mind is just bitching.'

Too true. Our family has operated for years under the rule that you are not allowed to shoot down someone else's suggestion (i.e, about what to have for dinner, how to divide up chores, or how to escape the kidnappers and scale the outside of the 70-story building) unless you have a new suggestion of your own.

I learned that one before I got married, when I eventually realized that my own complaining was not moving events any closer to a resolution -- when all I did was complain.."

I loved this thinking - that it needs to be integrated into our own life in a more explicit way

Upbeat Family
On Adam's comment about two upbeat people mating.. I think the two upbeat people find common interests to pursue and invest their time together. And can exist together for ever